Comments on: Keep Your Pants On: Sex & Single Christians http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/ . . . searching for sanity in a Christian culture gone mad Wed, 07 Jul 2010 07:23:45 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Latray & Shalonda http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/comment-page-1/#comment-1447 Latray & Shalonda Sat, 07 Jan 2006 01:40:46 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/#comment-1447 Hello everyone! We are a young Christian couple hoping to get closer to God. We have had premarital sex often, but we realized that it is wrong. Now we are seeking answers to our questions to help us not engage in ungodly acts, but to keep us sane. We are not married, but we are in a commitment with one another for 2 years and 8 months.We do know we want to be married to one another one day and are in a commitment. Question one is: is it a sin to engage in oral sex without engaging in sexual intercourse? Question 2: Where can we find in the bible to help us with our situation? Question 3:What can we do to cope with not having sexual intercourse since we've already began having sex? Hello everyone!

We are a young Christian couple hoping to get closer to God. We have had premarital sex often, but we realized that it is wrong. Now we are seeking answers to our questions to help us not engage in ungodly acts, but to keep us sane. We are not married, but we are in a commitment with one another for 2 years and 8 months.We do know we want to be married to one another one day and are in a commitment.
Question one is: is it a sin to engage in oral sex without engaging in sexual intercourse? Question 2: Where can we find in the bible to help us with our situation?
Question 3:What can we do to cope with not having sexual intercourse since we’ve already began having sex?

]]> By: Emily http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/comment-page-1/#comment-1379 Emily Mon, 05 Dec 2005 04:18:10 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/#comment-1379 Let's be real guys. I think that it is very difficult to wait to have intercourse before you are married. It is hard to stay monogamous, I could imagine, even if you are married. I have never been married, but I had been sexually active for many years before Christ took control of my life. I didn't become chaste until summer of 2002. If we fool ourselves into thinking we can just repress our sexual identities, we could end up in a lot of trouble by turning off CHRISTIAN prospects. God gave us the ability to look our best and put forth the gifts He has given us on the inside and outside. This is a lesson I learned after two years of running with a crowd that believed in repression and not befriending men. I am pretty conservative with respect to physical contact before marriage. I am even a little apprehensive about making out before marriage because it ruins the potential fun. I am not perfect and I definitely haven't reached the epitomy of personal holiness, but I hope that God may use my imperfect words to perhaps light a fire under some other single women who were in a predicament like myself. Yes, God does intervene in terms of providing a mate, but He gives us the responsibility to create opportunities to meet people. I am tired of the myth that a Christian single woman has to hide in a cacoon until her "prince" comes flying in to save her. If you are sexually frustrated, God is telling you something! Listen to Him! -Emily Let’s be real guys. I think that it is very difficult to wait to have intercourse before you are married. It is hard to stay monogamous, I could imagine, even if you are married. I have never been married, but I had been sexually active for many years before Christ took control of my life. I didn’t become chaste until summer of 2002. If we fool ourselves into thinking we can just repress our sexual identities, we could end up in a lot of trouble by turning off CHRISTIAN prospects. God gave us the ability to look our best and put forth the gifts He has given us on the inside and outside. This is a lesson I learned after two years of running with a crowd that believed in repression and not befriending men. I am pretty conservative with respect to physical contact before marriage. I am even a little apprehensive about making out before marriage because it ruins the potential fun. I am not perfect and I definitely haven’t reached the epitomy of personal holiness, but I hope that God may use my imperfect words to perhaps light a fire under some other single women who were in a predicament like myself. Yes, God does intervene in terms of providing a mate, but He gives us the responsibility to create opportunities to meet people. I am tired of the myth that a Christian single woman has to hide in a cacoon until her “prince” comes flying in to save her. If you are sexually frustrated, God is telling you something! Listen to Him!
-Emily

]]> By: Olivia http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/comment-page-1/#comment-1085 Olivia Fri, 01 Jul 2005 19:01:04 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/04/30/keep-your-pants-on-sex-single-christians/#comment-1085 Bonnie, there are people waiting it out until they are married, but I'm beginning to think they are only women! As soon as I tell a man that I will not sleep with anyone until I marry, they are GONE before I can even finish the sentence. I feel like giving up at times and fear I will never get to enjoy that glorious gift again, but I will not weaken in my resolve. I don't like it, but I will keep my vow. Bonnie, there are people waiting it out until they are married, but I’m beginning to think they are only women! As soon as I tell a man that I will not sleep with anyone until I marry, they are GONE before I can even finish the sentence. I feel like giving up at times and fear I will never get to enjoy that glorious gift again, but I will not weaken in my resolve. I don’t like it, but I will keep my vow.

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