Comments on: Position Paper: Divorce and Remarriage http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/24/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/ . . . searching for sanity in a Christian culture gone mad Sat, 21 Aug 2010 09:01:28 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Kim http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/24/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1531 Kim Wed, 01 Mar 2006 03:48:10 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/20/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/#comment-1531 Greetings, After going through a court-divorce one year ago, I am searching for God's desire in my life. I just read your biblical study on divorce, and now recognize that our divorce is illegitimate in the eye's of the Lord. I feel led to reconcile my marriage, and have been seeing my husband monthly. We are currently living in two different cities. My question is two-fold. Through God's grace, if we are able to come to terms, is it necessary for us to go through the traditional wedding ceremony. Also, in the midst of reconciliation is it unbiblical for the two of us to participate in sexual relations with one another. I am truly repentant and eager to follow the Lord's design for my life. If you could offer any advice, it would be greatly appreciated. In His Name, Kim Penson Greetings,

After going through a court-divorce one year ago, I am searching for God’s desire in my life. I just read your biblical study on divorce, and now recognize that our divorce is illegitimate in the eye’s of the Lord. I feel led to reconcile my marriage, and have been seeing my husband monthly. We are currently living in two different cities. My question is two-fold. Through God’s grace, if we are able to come to terms, is it necessary for us to go through the traditional wedding ceremony. Also, in the midst of reconciliation is it unbiblical for the two of us to participate in sexual relations with one another.

I am truly repentant and eager to follow the Lord’s design for my life. If you could offer any advice, it would be greatly appreciated.

In His Name,

Kim Penson

]]> By: Cephas http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/24/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/comment-page-1/#comment-1427 Cephas Wed, 28 Dec 2005 23:38:17 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/20/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/#comment-1427 Hi, My wife is demanding a divorce based on emotional abuse. She said I get angry easily and yelled at her (not public) occasionally. We are both Christian and she has a degree on Biblica counselling. I am very willing to repent. I admitted that I did yelled at her using very bad words, called her names and demean her. But I confessed my sins and asked for forgiveness and she accepted. I don't want to argue with her, but i love her so much and very very guilty of what I did to her. Please help. <em>Cephas: There is nothing I can do via the internet. Find a wise pastor and/or a counselor with a degree in Scriptural counseling (which is not the same as the so-called "biblical counseling") and seek help. You need to work on you, I think, and pray that she will work on herself and have the patience and hope to wait for change to occur. Confession and forgiveness are all well and good, but repentance is what is necessary - and true repentance takes months to prove, especially when there has been a betrayal of the magnitude you describe. You may not be able to save your marriage, but your responsibility to work on yourself remains. Otherwise, if there is a divorce, the pattern will simply repreat itself when you remarry - as you will, since it seems that you are quite dependent on women. - Mike</em> Hi,
My wife is demanding a divorce based on emotional abuse. She said I get angry easily and yelled at her (not public) occasionally. We are both Christian and she has a degree on Biblica counselling.
I am very willing to repent. I admitted that I did yelled at her using very bad words, called her names and demean her. But I confessed my sins and asked for forgiveness and she accepted. I don’t want to argue with her, but i love her so much and very very guilty of what I did to her.
Please help.

Cephas:

There is nothing I can do via the internet. Find a wise pastor and/or a counselor with a degree in Scriptural counseling (which is not the same as the so-called “biblical counseling”) and seek help. You need to work on you, I think, and pray that she will work on herself and have the patience and hope to wait for change to occur.

Confession and forgiveness are all well and good, but repentance is what is necessary – and true repentance takes months to prove, especially when there has been a betrayal of the magnitude you describe.

You may not be able to save your marriage, but your responsibility to work on yourself remains. Otherwise, if there is a divorce, the pattern will simply repreat itself when you remarry – as you will, since it seems that you are quite dependent on women.

- Mike

]]> By: Eternal Perspectives » Blog Archive » Divorce and Remarriage: Conclusion http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/24/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Eternal Perspectives » Blog Archive » Divorce and Remarriage: Conclusion Wed, 06 Apr 2005 02:53:29 +0000 http://eternalperspectives.com/2005/03/20/position-paper-divorce-and-remarriage/#comment-32 [...] ional Neglect. Emotional neglect as a basis for divorce was described in a previous post (Part One). The rabbis did not directly or immediately allow for [...] [...] ional Neglect. Emotional neglect as a basis for divorce was described in a previous post (Part One). The rabbis did not directly or immediately allow for [...]

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